I don't get it. If she doesn't want people to know, then just leave her alone la.. Why all this persistent efforts to read between the lines and go through the back door and all sorts of ways to find out. Have we reached a stage in society where a human being cant even decide for him/herself what he/she wants to say? Have we reached an era where personal choice is no longer respected? This is not some group project work where we need to accommodate everybody. If she wants to do things a certain way, it wont kill you to let her do it that way. Do people want to find out because they genuinely want to know or simply because they dont like this idea of not knowing? If she doesnt want people to come, then why cant the rest of the world respect that? So which is more important now, fulfilling your desire to send her off or respecting her decision to leave quietly? In our desire to "be nice", have we actually gone beyond somebody's personal wishes? Am I irritated? Of course I am. This is not some computer or car that needs to be fixed and we must all persevere to find some way of getting to work again. This is somebody's personal choice here. There are feelings involved.